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About me

Hi there!

I’m Tosin, a wellness enthusiast who believes in the healing magic of connection and the gentle power of touch. As a June-born Cancerian, I bring all the nurturing vibes you’d expect—plus a dash of humor to keep things light and cozy.

I’m here to facilitate safe, judgment-free spaces where you can unwind, share a laugh, and feel truly at ease. Whether you’re seeking stress relief, comfort, or just a little human connection, I’ve got you covered—literally!

Let’s enjoy a warm conversation, a peaceful space, some uplifting thoughts—plus a few good laughs— as we discover the magical energy of platonic and emotional support together. 

Feeling seen & Secured

Within every heart lies the innate longing to be truly seen, deeply valued, and securely held. It’s in this connection that we discover our greatest strength, our truest joy, and the wholeness we’ve always sought.

It is in this sacred interaction that we uncover life’s most transformative truths. Here, we discover our greatest strength—the courage to live boldly and love fully.

Touch Therapy

Touch: The Gentle Embrace of Connection

Human touch is one of the most profound healers of stress and loneliness. Whether it’s through a warm hug, a loving massage, or simply holding hands, touch reminds us of our shared humanity. Even self-touch—like gently rubbing your temples or placing your hand over your heart—can send signals of safety and love to your nervous system. It’s a language of care that transcends words

Reduce Stress & Increase Oxytocin

Experience the magic of connection with a cuddle buddy—a comforting presence that helps melt away stress and fill your days with warmth. Through simple yet meaningful interactions like touch, laughter, and shared moments, your body naturally releases oxytocin, the "love hormone," fostering feelings of calm, trust, and happiness.

With a cuddle buddy, you can create a safe, judgment-free space where you feel valued, supported, and at ease. Whether it’s a heartfelt conversation, a relaxing hug, or quiet time together, these moments don’t just ease stress—they nurture your well-being and build deeper connections. Rediscover the joy of companionship and let every embrace bring balance and peace to your life

Sound: The melody of comfort

Sound has a way of reaching places words cannot. Listening to gentle music, calming nature sounds, or the hum of a loved one's voice can ease tension and create feelings of safety. Daily moments of silence are just as powerful—allowing you to hear your own thoughts and connect with your inner self. Sound invites you to pause, breathe, and rediscover the rhythm of your life.

 

Frequently asked questions

What's wrong with me.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with you for feeling the way you do. In fact, acknowledging your sadness is the first step toward healing. It takes great strength to face these emotions, and it's okay to feel vulnerable. Remember, it's through these very moments that you can learn more about yourself, your needs, and your desires for growth

Why am i always sad.

The sadness you feel does not define who you are—it’s just a passing experience. And you absolutely deserve happiness, peace, and comfort. There’s nothing wrong with you for feeling this way. The fact that you’re acknowledging these feelings and seeking a way to heal is a beautiful sign of your resilience and your strength. This is your soul’s way of telling you that it's time to nurture yourself and to ask for what you need. e.g Booking a session with The Wholistic Nigerian to calm your emotions and experience a very eco friendly support :)

" Why am i always stressed"

I hear your pain, and I want to acknowledge how difficult it can be to carry the weight of stress and anxiety. These emotions, while challenging, are actually very common in today's fast-paced world, and you are absolutely not alone in feeling this way. Stress and anxiety are often signs from your body and mind that you're carrying more than you should, and that something in your life may need more nurturing, balance, or support. It’s okay to feel overwhelmed—it doesn’t mean you're failing. It means you’re human, and you're doing your best with the circumstances you have.

Stress and anxiety often arise when we feel disconnected from our sense of safety or when we carry too many worries and responsibilities. In these moments, it can feel like there's no way to escape the constant buzz of anxiety or the tightness in your chest, but I want to remind you that these feelings are temporary, even if they feel unshakeable right now. You will not always feel like this. The body and mind are resilient, and with the right support, you can restore a sense of calm and inner peace.

"Why am i so lonely"

It’s important to recognize that you are not broken for feeling lonely or anxious.

Here's a tip: Try inviting warmth into your space, whether through a cozy blanket, a cup of tea, or simply sitting in a quiet room and focusing on your breath. Allow yourself to feel supported by your environment, and give yourself permission to let go of any pressure to “fix” how you’re feeling immediately. Healing takes time, and you don’t have to rush the process.

These emotions are not a reflection of your worth. They are simply cues from your inner self wanting you to take steps toward healing, comfort, and connection. And reaching out for support is an act of great strength.

And if you're open to it, I’d encourage you to reach out for a cuddle session. Sometimes, just knowing you have someone there who can provide warmth, comfort, and emotional presence can be deeply uplifting and grounding. You deserve to feel cared for, and you are worthy of comfort and connection.

“Why Won’t I Get Help?”

It is because you are going through alot and not stopping to smell the roses around you. One thing you can do to uplift your spirit today is to practice a simple grounding technique. Close your eyes, take a deep breath, and place one hand over your heart. Feel the steady rhythm of your breath and your heartbeat. In this moment, remind yourself that you are safe, you are loved, and you are enough. This small act can anchor you back to a place of peace, no matter what is happening around you. And if you need a supportive push just call The wholistic Nigerian :).

Remember, even the smallest steps toward healing are powerful. You are not alone in this journey, and you have everything you need to rise above. Keep believing in yourself.

“Where Do I Start?”

Here’s a tip to help you shift the energy today: Start by being gentle with yourself. In moments of sadness, instead of pushing yourself to “snap out of it,” try to sit with your emotions without judgment. Practice self-compassion—speak to yourself as you would to a dear friend who is struggling. Say, “It’s okay to feel this way. I’m here for you.” Sometimes, just offering yourself kindness can begin the process of healing. You should also employ the support of The Wholistic Nigerian as a facilitating partner willing to walk with you on this journey. "You are not alone"

Cuddling and sleep depravation!

Why Sleep Doesn’t Have to Be a Struggle (And How Cuddles Might Help!)

Oh, I get it. There’s nothing quite like the frustration of tossing and turning all night, hoping sleep will finally show up. It’s like your pillow is playing hard to get. Lack of sleep can make everything feel like it’s piling on—stress, anxiety, even sadness—and leave you feeling like a zombie the next day. But I want to remind you: if you’re struggling with sleep, there’s nothing wrong with you. Sometimes, our minds and bodies just need a little extra TLC to get into that sweet, restful groove.

Sleep issues can be caused by a ton of factors—stress, anxiety, hormonal shifts, or maybe your bed just isn’t as cozy as it could be. When we feel overstimulated or emotionally disconnected, our nervous systems can go into overdrive, making it super hard to wind down. Add racing thoughts and unresolved emotions to the mix, and it’s no wonder sleep becomes elusive. But here's the thing: it’s not just about how much you sleep—it’s about how you prepare your body and mind for it.

The Sleep-Saving Power of Touch

One thing many people don’t realize is that non-sexual social touch—like a hug, cuddle, or even just a warm, comforting presence—can do wonders for improving your sleep. No, seriously. When you snuggle up with someone, your body releases oxytocin, that magical “love hormone.” And guess what? Oxytocin isn’t just about bonding and trust—it also works like a reset button for your stress levels. It lowers cortisol (aka the “ugh, I’m stressed!” hormone), slows your heart rate, and basically prepares you to drift off into a peaceful slumber.

For anyone feeling disconnected, anxious, or emotionally drained, the healing power of non-sexual touch can be a total game changer. It’s like your body’s version of a “soft reset,” allowing you to release tension and ease into a restful state. So, if you’re the kind of person whose mind races at bedtime or you’re just missing that sense of comfort, a cuddle buddy might be exactly what you need to get the Zzzs you deserve.

How a Cuddle Buddy Can Help You Sleep Better

Let’s talk about cuddle buddies, shall we? Whether it’s just lying next to someone who gives off good vibes or sharing a comforting, non-judgmental hug, the presence of a cuddle buddy can do wonders for your body and mind. When someone else is there to hold space for you, it can create a sense of security and relaxation that’s hard to find on your own. It’s not just about proximity—it’s about feeling held and cared for, which makes your body feel safe enough to let go of the day and fully relax.

A Little Bedtime Hack for You

Tonight, before you try to wrestle with sleep again, let’s do something a little different: create a bedtime ritual that actually encourages relaxation. Start by dimming the lights and ditching the screens at least 30 minutes before bed. (Yes, I know—goodbye, endless scrolling!) You could also try listening to calming music or a guided meditation to settle your thoughts. And if you’re feeling open to it, try cuddling up with a companion. A simple touch, a peaceful presence, or even just holding hands can work wonders in quieting your mind and making you feel safe.

Because here’s the thing: you deserve deep, restful sleep. It might take a little patience and compassion, but with the right support (and maybe a cuddle or two), that sleep you’re dreaming of is totally within reach.

Take care of yourself, give yourself the comfort you need, and let the rest follow. Sweet dreams are closer than you think.

With warm hugs (and better sleep),
Your Cuddle Cheerleader 💖🌙

Healing Touch

cuddling and its physical healing benefits.

Cuddling: Your New Favorite Health Hack

Let’s face it: we all love a good cuddle. But did you know that snuggling up isn’t just about feeling cozy—it’s actually an underrated superhero when it comes to your health and emotional well-being? Yep, cuddling has some pretty magical benefits for both your mind and body. So, let’s dive in and explore why cuddles are basically the wellness trend you didn’t know you needed (but totally do).

Immune System Support: Yes, Your Cuddle Can Fight Germs!
Boosts oxytocin: Cuddling is like a VIP pass to oxytocin—the hormone that makes you feel all warm and fuzzy inside. But it does more than just spark happiness—it helps your immune system kick into high gear, fighting off those pesky infections.

Lowers cortisol: Say goodbye to stress! Physical touch (like cuddling) helps lower cortisol, the stress hormone that can actually make you sick. Less cortisol = more resilience.

Serotonin = Happiness: When you're feeling safe and connected, your brain is like, "Let’s release all the good stuff." That means more serotonin, which helps lift your mood and keeps you feeling balanced, calm, and, well, just better.

Stress Relief & Emotional Comfort: Because We All Need a Break
Bye-bye stress: If you’re feeling frazzled or overwhelmed, cuddling is like hitting the “reset” button for your mind. Just a quick 20-second hug can trigger your body’s relaxation response, instantly soothing anxiety.

Therapeutic hugs: Hugs aren’t just for when you’re feeling down—they’re powerful. During tough times, the simple act of being held can provide a deep sense of emotional comfort, making the world feel a little more manageable.

Pain Relief: Cuddling to the Rescue
Eases physical pain: Whether you’ve got a headache, muscle tension, or just general discomfort, cuddling can work wonders. It’s not just about emotional comfort—it can actually help ease physical pain, too. Your body just loves a good snuggle!

Heart & Blood Pressure Health: That’s right, cuddling isn’t just a feel-good thing—it’s a heart good thing. Snuggling has been shown to help lower blood pressure, so your heart stays happy and healthy. Plus, cuddling promotes circulation, which keeps your body running smoothly.

Emotional & Mental Well-being: Cuddle Your Way to a Better Mood
Fighting off the blues: Feeling down? A hug or cuddle can help release endorphins, those magical little hormones that make you feel better and more energized. It’s like a mood boost in the form of a hug.

Fights fatigue: Cuddling isn’t just a way to relax—it’s an effective remedy for exhaustion, both physical and emotional. By calming your nervous system, cuddling helps you feel more rested and ready to take on the world (or at least your to-do list).

Improves focus: A cuddle can even help clear your mind, allowing you to concentrate better when you’re feeling scattered or overwhelmed. It’s like a mini mental reset, and who doesn’t need that?

The Power of a Cuddle Buddy Companion
Let’s be real: sometimes, we all need a little extra TLC. Whether you’re feeling anxious, stressed, or just need some emotional support, a cuddle buddy is there for you. Here’s what a cuddle buddy can do for you:

Ease stress: Sometimes, all it takes is a warm, comforting presence to melt the stress away. A cuddle buddy helps calm your mind and gives you a much-needed break.

Lift your spirits: Just a few minutes of cuddling can trigger those feel-good hormones, helping to lift your mood and make you feel more connected to others.

Emotional support: When you're feeling lonely or sad, a cuddle buddy can provide a safe, compassionate touch, letting you feel seen, heard, and cared for.

A Little Tip for Your Soul
Feeling stressed or overwhelmed? Try this: take a moment to close your eyes, give yourself a hug (yes, you can totally hug yourself), and take a few deep breaths. Imagine the warmth and comfort of a cuddle as you breathe in peace. It's like giving yourself a mini spa day for your heart—and it's one of the simplest ways to reconnect with your own sense of calm.

And hey, if you're in need of a little extra love, don’t hesitate to reach out to a cuddle buddy. The act of cuddling is so much more than just physical comfort—it’s about feeling emotionally cared for and deeply connected. So go ahead, grab that cuddle, and let the healing begin.

Remember, you totally deserve to feel supported and nurtured. Sometimes, all you need is a good cuddle to get back to feeling like yourself again.

With all the warmth and comfort,
Your Healing Companion 💖🌸

Cuddle code of conduct!

1. Client and Practitioner both verify that they are at least the legal age of consent in their location.

2. Client and Practitioner both agree to be free from any mind-altering substances during the sessions and are thereby fully able to give consent.

3. Client agrees to fully disclose any diagnoses or conditions that may affect their cuddling session to the Practitioner.

4. Client and Practitioner both agree to practice consent and attention to personal boundaries at all times.

5. Client and Practitioner will communicate to find what is mutually comfortable throughout each cuddling session. This applies to all communication prior to and after sessions as well.

6. This is a strictly platonic service. Client and Practitioner both agree to not pursue or encourage sexual arousal. Also:

  • Minimum clothing of tank top and shorts that cover the top half of the thigh and are suitable to be worn in public for both Client and Practitioner at all times.
  • No hand to genital or breast contact. No intentional genital stimulation of any kind.
  • No exchanging of saliva, or any other bodily fluid, in any way.

7. Client and Practitioner both agree to respectful personal hygiene. 

8. Client confidentiality is to be respected at all times.

9. Either Client or Practitioner may end the session at any time.

10. All feedback is valued and confidential. Client and Practitioner agree to let Cuddlist.com know if either party does not uphold this code of conduct during a Cuddlist session through our feedback form.