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About me

Hi there!

I’m Tosin, a wellness enthusiast who believes in the healing magic of connection and the gentle power of touch. As a June-born Cancerian, I bring all the nurturing vibes you’d expect—plus a dash of humor to keep things light and cozy.

I’m here to facilitate safe, judgment-free spaces where you can unwind, share a laugh, and feel truly at ease. Whether you’re seeking stress relief, comfort, or just a little human connection, I’ve got you covered—literally!

Let’s enjoy a warm conversation, a peaceful space, some uplifting thoughts—plus a few good laughs— as we discover the magical energy of platonic and emotional support together. 

Feeling seen & Secured

Within every heart lies the innate longing to be truly seen, deeply valued, and securely held. It’s in this connection that we discover our greatest strength, our truest joy, and the wholeness we’ve always sought.

It is in this sacred interaction that we uncover life’s most transformative truths. Here, we discover our greatest strength—the courage to live boldly and love fully.

Touch Therapy

Touch: The Gentle Embrace of Connection

Human touch is one of the most profound healers of stress and loneliness. Whether it’s through a warm hug, a loving massage, or simply holding hands, touch reminds us of our shared humanity. Even self-touch—like gently rubbing your temples or placing your hand over your heart—can send signals of safety and love to your nervous system. It’s a language of care that transcends words

Reduce Stress & Increase Oxytocin

Experience the magic of connection with a cuddle buddy—a comforting presence that helps melt away stress and fill your days with warmth. Through simple yet meaningful interactions like touch, laughter, and shared moments, your body naturally releases oxytocin, the "love hormone," fostering feelings of calm, trust, and happiness.

With a cuddle buddy, you can create a safe, judgment-free space where you feel valued, supported, and at ease. Whether it’s a heartfelt conversation, a relaxing hug, or quiet time together, these moments don’t just ease stress—they nurture your well-being and build deeper connections. Rediscover the joy of companionship and let every embrace bring balance and peace to your life

Sound: The melody of comfort

Sound has a way of reaching places words cannot. Listening to gentle music, calming nature sounds, or the hum of a loved one's voice can ease tension and create feelings of safety. Daily moments of silence are just as powerful—allowing you to hear your own thoughts and connect with your inner self. Sound invites you to pause, breathe, and rediscover the rhythm of your life.

 

Frequently asked questions

What's wrong with me.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with you for feeling the way you do. In fact, acknowledging your sadness is the first step toward healing. It takes great strength to face these emotions, and it's okay to feel vulnerable. Remember, it's through these very moments that you can learn more about yourself, your needs, and your desires for growth

Why am i always sad.

The sadness you feel does not define who you are—it’s just a passing experience. And you absolutely deserve happiness, peace, and comfort. There’s nothing wrong with you for feeling this way. The fact that you’re acknowledging these feelings and seeking a way to heal is a beautiful sign of your resilience and your strength. This is your soul’s way of telling you that it's time to nurture yourself and to ask for what you need. e.g Booking a session with The Wholistic Nigerian to calm your emotions and experience a very eco friendly support :)

" Why am i always stressed"

I hear your pain, and I want to acknowledge how difficult it can be to carry the weight of stress and anxiety. These emotions, while challenging, are actually very common in today's fast-paced world, and you are absolutely not alone in feeling this way. Stress and anxiety are often signs from your body and mind that you're carrying more than you should, and that something in your life may need more nurturing, balance, or support. It’s okay to feel overwhelmed—it doesn’t mean you're failing. It means you’re human, and you're doing your best with the circumstances you have.

Stress and anxiety often arise when we feel disconnected from our sense of safety or when we carry too many worries and responsibilities. In these moments, it can feel like there's no way to escape the constant buzz of anxiety or the tightness in your chest, but I want to remind you that these feelings are temporary, even if they feel unshakeable right now. You will not always feel like this. The body and mind are resilient, and with the right support, you can restore a sense of calm and inner peace.

"Why am i so lonely"

It’s important to recognize that you are not broken for feeling lonely or anxious.

Here's a tip: Try inviting warmth into your space, whether through a cozy blanket, a cup of tea, or simply sitting in a quiet room and focusing on your breath. Allow yourself to feel supported by your environment, and give yourself permission to let go of any pressure to “fix” how you’re feeling immediately. Healing takes time, and you don’t have to rush the process.

These emotions are not a reflection of your worth. They are simply cues from your inner self wanting you to take steps toward healing, comfort, and connection. And reaching out for support is an act of great strength.

And if you're open to it, I’d encourage you to reach out for a cuddle session. Sometimes, just knowing you have someone there who can provide warmth, comfort, and emotional presence can be deeply uplifting and grounding. You deserve to feel cared for, and you are worthy of comfort and connection.

“Why Won’t I Get Help?”

It is because you are going through alot and not stopping to smell the roses around you. One thing you can do to uplift your spirit today is to practice a simple grounding technique. Close your eyes, take a deep breath, and place one hand over your heart. Feel the steady rhythm of your breath and your heartbeat. In this moment, remind yourself that you are safe, you are loved, and you are enough. This small act can anchor you back to a place of peace, no matter what is happening around you. And if you need a supportive push just call The wholistic Nigerian :).

Remember, even the smallest steps toward healing are powerful. You are not alone in this journey, and you have everything you need to rise above. Keep believing in yourself.

“Where Do I Start?”

Here’s a tip to help you shift the energy today: Start by being gentle with yourself. In moments of sadness, instead of pushing yourself to “snap out of it,” try to sit with your emotions without judgment. Practice self-compassion—speak to yourself as you would to a dear friend who is struggling. Say, “It’s okay to feel this way. I’m here for you.” Sometimes, just offering yourself kindness can begin the process of healing. You should also employ the support of The Wholistic Nigerian as a facilitating partner willing to walk with you on this journey. "You are not alone"

Cuddling and sleep depravation!

I understand how incredibly frustrating it can be when sleep feels just out of reach. Lack of sleep can make everything feel more overwhelming—stress, anxiety, even sadness—and it can leave you feeling drained. But I want to remind you that there is nothing wrong with you for struggling with sleep. Our minds and bodies sometimes need a little more support to find that restful, peaceful state. Sleep disturbances can be caused by a variety of factors—stress, anxiety, hormonal changes, or even a lack of the right kind of comfort and connection.

When we feel disconnected or overstimulated, our nervous systems can become overactive, making it difficult to wind down at night. A busy mind, racing thoughts, or unresolved emotions can keep us awake long after our heads hit the pillow. On top of that, many people aren't aware that non-sexual social touch can play a huge role in improving our ability to relax and fall asleep.

Human touch, especially in the form of a comforting hug, cuddle, or gentle presence, triggers the release of oxytocin, often referred to as the "love hormone." This hormone not only helps build trust and connection but also works wonders in calming the body and reducing stress levels. Oxytocin can lower cortisol (the stress hormone), lower heart rates, and prepare your body for rest. It’s a natural way to ease anxiety and prepare your body for deeper, more restorative sleep. This is why, especially for those who struggle with feeling emotionally disconnected or stressed, the power of non-sexual touch can be transformative.

A cuddle buddy companion could offer a healing presence that allows you to feel nurtured and safe, which can help ease the tension in your body and mind. Whether it’s lying next to someone who offers comfort, or simply holding each other in a space of non-judgment, cuddling can provide a deep sense of security that promotes restful sleep. It’s not just about physical closeness, but about feeling held and cared for, which creates an environment where your body can relax fully.

Here’s a tip to help you tonight: Create a soothing bedtime ritual that encourages relaxation. Start by dimming the lights and avoiding screens at least 30 minutes before bed. You could also try listening to calming music or guided meditation to help ease your thoughts. And if you’re open to it, consider cuddling with a companion—someone who can help you feel physically connected, offering a peaceful, gentle presence. Whether you need to unwind after a long day or simply need a moment of safe touch, a cuddle buddy can offer the comfort and support that makes all the difference in your sleep quality.

Remember, you deserve deep, restful sleep. Healing your body and mind to reach that place of tranquility takes patience and compassion, but with the right support, it’s absolutely within reach

Healing Touch

cuddling and its physical healing benefits.

Cuddling is not just a comforting way to feel close to someone—it’s a powerful tool for promoting overall health and emotional well-being. When we engage in cuddling or physical touch, we activate a range of benefits that nurture both our body and mind. Here's how cuddling can support your health and help you feel better inside and out:

Immune System Support

  • Boosts oxytocin: Cuddling triggers the release of oxytocin, a hormone that not only makes us feel good, but also supports your immune system, helping you fight off infections.
  • Lowers cortisol: Physical touch, like cuddling, lowers cortisol, the stress hormone, which can otherwise weaken your immune system. By reducing cortisol, cuddling helps you stay healthy and resilient.
  • Boosts serotonin and happiness: When you feel safe and connected, your brain produces optimal levels of oxytocin and serotonin—hormones that improve mood and help you feel happier, calmer, and more balanced.

Stress Relief and Emotional Comfort

  • Reduces stress and anxiety: Cuddling is an effective way to soothe anxiety and calm a racing mind. Even just a 20-second hug can trigger the body’s relaxation response, reducing the harmful effects of stress.
  • Therapeutic hugs: Hugs and cuddling can be incredibly healing, especially during stressful or emotionally difficult times. They provide a sense of emotional safety and comfort that is deeply soothing.

Pain Relief

  • Eases physical pain: Cuddling is a natural form of therapeutic touch that can help ease pain. Whether it's from a headache, muscle tension, or general discomfort, cuddling activates the body’s relaxation response, providing pain relief and comfort.

Heart and Blood Pressure Health

  • Reduces blood pressure: Cuddling has been shown to help lower both systolic and diastolic blood pressure, promoting heart health by reducing stress on your cardiovascular system.
  • Promotes heart health: Physical connection through cuddling boosts circulation and helps keep your heart strong by reducing the impact of stress on your body.

Emotional and Mental Well-being

  • Eases depression: A simple hug can do wonders for lifting feelings of sadness. The act of being held and embraced helps trigger the release of endorphins, providing relief from depressive feelings.
  • Reduces fatigue: Cuddling helps reduce physical and emotional exhaustion by calming your nervous system and allowing you to relax more deeply.
  • Improves concentration: When you're feeling overwhelmed or distracted, a hug can help ground you, improving your focus and ability to concentrate.

How a Cuddle Buddy Companion Can Help

When you’re feeling overwhelmed, stressed, or just in need of comfort, a cuddle buddy can provide the supportive presence you need to feel nurtured and cared for. A cuddle buddy is a non-judgmental, compassionate companion who can help:

  • Ease your stress: Through the soothing power of touch, a cuddle buddy can reduce anxiety, giving you a moment of peace and relief.
  • Boost your mood: Physical touch, such as cuddling, triggers the release of feel-good hormones, lifting your spirits and helping you feel more connected to others.
  • Support your emotional well-being: A cuddle companion can offer comforting, safe touch, allowing you to feel seen and cared for, which is especially important when you're struggling with loneliness or sadness.

Tip for Uplifting Your Spirit:

If you're feeling anxious or exhausted, try taking a few moments to close your eyes and give yourself a self-hug. Wrap your arms around yourself, hold tight, and take a few deep breaths. Imagine the warmth and comfort of a cuddle as you breathe in peace. Sometimes, starting with this simple act of self-compassion can create the calm and comfort you need to reconnect with your own sense of well-being.

Consider reaching out to a cuddle buddy companion when you're in need of emotional support. The act of cuddling can offer not just physical comfort but also a deep sense of emotional care and connection that can be incredibly healing.

Remember, you deserve to feel supported and nurtured, and sometimes the power of a hug or cuddle is all you need to begin healing and finding balance.

With warmth and care,
Your healing companion 💖🌸

Cuddle code of conduct!

1. Client and Practitioner both verify that they are at least the legal age of consent in their location.

2. Client and Practitioner both agree to be free from any mind-altering substances during the sessions and are thereby fully able to give consent.

3. Client agrees to fully disclose any diagnoses or conditions that may affect their cuddling session to the Practitioner.

4. Client and Practitioner both agree to practice consent and attention to personal boundaries at all times.

5. Client and Practitioner will communicate to find what is mutually comfortable throughout each cuddling session. This applies to all communication prior to and after sessions as well.

6. This is a strictly platonic service. Client and Practitioner both agree to not pursue or encourage sexual arousal. Also:

  • Minimum clothing of tank top and shorts that cover the top half of the thigh and are suitable to be worn in public for both Client and Practitioner at all times.
  • No hand to genital or breast contact. No intentional genital stimulation of any kind.
  • No exchanging of saliva, or any other bodily fluid, in any way.

7. Client and Practitioner both agree to respectful personal hygiene. 

8. Client confidentiality is to be respected at all times.

9. Either Client or Practitioner may end the session at any time.

10. All feedback is valued and confidential. Client and Practitioner agree to let Cuddlist.com know if either party does not uphold this code of conduct during a Cuddlist session through our feedback form.